Where is MY ME TIME

 

(WOMEN BETWEEN 50-59 COVID PHASE)

The great pandemic of 2020 has been a unique stressor that has affected communities all around the world, humanity is adapting to a new way of life in a new era to take preventive measures. This virus is closely related to psychological distress, mental illnesses, and physical pain. You may have probably seen many stories recently about raising mental health awareness in the context of the pandemic, but today we'd want to focus on the issues that our elderly females, particularly those between the ages of 50 to 59, are experiencing as a result of the pandemic.

As you can see, the world is turning around and returning to earlier years throughout this pandemic, and it appears like the circle is repeating itself. Male household members who work outside the home are adopting for work-from-home opportunities, and children who we once thought were financially self-sufficient and would gladly live with their own families are returning. This has produced a great deal of tension among older ladies who once believed they were free of all domestic obligations.

They have to play the same job of caretaker they once did when they were 30 or 40 due to the abrupt turning back of the globe. Though the time has been reversed with their responsibilities, their bodies and minds are unable to adjust to this new scenario. ME TIME that they used to have for themselves is now occupied by home duties for their spouse and children. This has caused more than 20% of women to suffer through depression, anxiety, and major psychological disorders. It has been shown that lack of awareness and cognitive impairment, associated with stress factors makes this age group more susceptible to psychological and physiological problems.

"I don't feel like going into the kitchen or doing any household chores"

"I easily get frustrated with people and family members"

"I don't like to socialize or go anywhere outside"

Vishwas Healing Centre has been familiarized through several similar cases in which all the women have used the same Phrases. Psychological issues have been developed into them as a result of bottled-up feelings like:

• loss of purpose

• lack of me time

• mind-body-environment conflicts

Such situations have caused the feeling of NUMBNESS – An emotionally frozen state. Feeling emotionally numb can cause a sense of isolation or emotional disconnect from the rest of the world. This numbness can sometimes be unbearable for many people who are experiencing it. They are in such a vulnerable position that their body is giving up on domestic tasks, but their mind, which believe themselves to be natural nurturers for their family members, is devouring and swallowing them up with the immense guilt of failing to fulfill their responsibilities. Thoughts such as:

I am not meeting their needs

I am not making them happy

I am failing my family

I don’t have the strength to do it all

These are growing feelings of inadequacy, frustration, and anger.

Family members who observe their mother or spouse in such situations can take action to assist them in achieving liberation from their misery.

• You might begin by having them get rid of all household responsibilities, allowing them to relax and spend their time on whatever they wish.

• Assure them and help them re-realize their importance and the role they play. Being the strong pillar of family. Acknowledge it. Assure them that they have really worked hard the whole life and they deserve this Me Time. Nobody will judge them on this and they can get back to the role whenever they want.

• Participate in the household chores to share the burden. Ask for help from them to do the household chores but don't hold them responsible for it. They will love to help you and at the same time feel connected as well.

• Invest in a full-time maid or assist them personally.

• If you see her feeling miserable day by day you should immediately consult a psychologist.

• You can also plan a family vacation when she is feeling good physically and mentally. Plan it near the beach or in the mountains so that the atmosphere and feeling of peace can help them feel emotionally grounded.

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Always remember not to push them to do anything; they need time to feel mentally, emotionally, and physically at ease. Express your love and gratitude to her more frequently by doing tiny things like cooking her favorite food or recalling old and pleasant memories with her and praising her for everything she has done for you in the past and today. And always keep your house organized, it brings calm and peace to your space and therefore, to your life and it makes a person feel lighter, without piles and clutter your space will feel open, bright, and airy.

Family is the best thing you could ever wish for. They are there for you during the ups and downs and love you unconditionally; no matter what.

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Parenting Tweens

 Tweens are the kids between the age of  8 and 12. The pre-teen years sets a foundation for the teenage years. How your relationship will be with your teen can be easily understood by how the tween years were. Every age group requires different approach to parenting. Kids at this stage go through not only physical changes, but also emotional, mental and social changes. Trying to understand their place in world, they observe, learn and form their own perspectives and opinions. Understanding their own likes and dislikes.

What are the THREE points you should remember?

1. Children Observe – at this stage, they are observing the world around them. So rather than telling them what to do, it’s time to provide guidance and through your own behavior let them form their own orientation. What’s right and what’s not, they’ll learn through your actions. Remember: Action speak louder than words.

2. Confidence Building – one of the most important things a parent must do is build their child’s confidence. It is, after all, a stage of exploration. Trying to workout things is what the child shall do. Appreciating their efforts, celebrating the steps that they take is crucial. It not only builds their confidence but also strengths the bond between the child and the parent. Creating the foundation for the friendship that’ll be essential in their teenage years and ahead as well.

3. Spiritual Quotient – It’s the time to build the spiritual quotient of your child. Make sure to develop their interest in meditation, pranayama and yoga.

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According to Dr. Pooja, this is the time for active and creative parenting. And you need to align yourself with your child’s needs.

This stage is important in the development of social and communication skills and self-confidence. Provide them that safe space to explore and learn. 

Reflections 2021

 

Today is December 30, 2021. And just after one day, we will be welcoming a new year. Hoping that it will bring a better time, a better phase to us.

2021 taught us a lot of things. At the top of that list was dealing with mental stress. Whether that stress was about your job and finances or your health or your relationships. This year we worked not only on our physical health but mental health as well. We learned the necessity of balance. Balance in our health and work. Balance in our relationships.

It showed a different side to us.  It showed that we need to look inwards as well. We need to build connection with ourselves as well. People went through highs and lows and came out of the difficult times with more strength than before. But yes, we made some mistakes as well. Some mistakes were made by other people too. And that’s okay. With the end of this year, let’s forgive. Let’s forgive others for their slipups. And above all, let’s forgive ourselves for our missteps. It’s time to change the perspective from “a mistake” to “a learning opportunity”. Let's reflect and review. Let's learn from this year and be a better version of ourselves in the coming year.

With open arms let’s welcome the beautiful 2022. Let’s enter this year with new outlook and positive perspectives. Let’s leave those old patterns behind.  Let’s enter this year with new positive energies and intentions. And let’s welcome all the opportunities that this year will bring.

A very Happy New Year to you. :)

May this year bring you a lot of reasons for celebrations and joy!

Parents And Teenagers

 

Kahani Ghar Ghar ki (Story of every home)

This is the story of every teenager at home. And this particular story revolves around a girl named Ritika. And something that happens during Valentine's week.

Ritika was engrossed in her favourite Netflix series, when her mother asked her for her lunch box. After calling Ritika a number of times, her mother decided to search through her bag to get her lunch box. While searching she finds a small lovely teddy bear and a big bright and beautiful valentine’s day card, with some handwritten messages written on it.

“Ritika?!” Mom said.

“Yes?” replies Ritika distractedly

“Where did you get this teddy bear from?!” Mom exclaims.

Assuming her mom is talking about the toy she got from the market a few days ago. Ritika says “I got it two days back from that shopkeeper. And guess what mom, I got an amazing discount!”

“Shopkeeper?!” her mom says with a straight face.

“Yes, nice guy really, very sweet!” says Ritika.

“Ah, I see. How long has this been going on?” Mom.

“I told you - two days back, you are not paying attention mom!I

“I see. You got this card from him too? Messages also, he wrote it for free, it seems?!”

Ritika: Card…?

She then remembers that her school bag had some gifts and cards that her friend had kept there for Valentine’s Day, to give to someone special.

Ritika tries to explain to her mom but she is not ready to listen, instead scolds Ritika a lot. In the evening when her dad came from the office, the scolding continued. Ritika, later spends the whole evening feeling scared and stressed, unable to concentrate on her studies or prepare for the test that was supposed to happen the next day. She failed the test and her parents even blamed her for that too. This is the outcome in every home where parents and children don't seem to be on the same wavelength, where they don’t communicate effectively.

Today’s generation has different requirements and needs which the parents need to understand, and need to see the situations from their children’s perspective. And here we will be discussing some points we need to remember at this juncture.

1. Communication is the bottom-line of a child and parent relationship, the way of communication is built by the parents from the beginning, what kind of environment they provide a child with and whether or not the child can feel secure in the relationship is dependent on how parents communicate. A parent should always provide a healthy environment with the right amount of care to let their child grow in a balanced way.

2. Authoritative Parenting is one of the best forms of parenting, it is the combination of allows a child to become confident, disciplined, self-reliant and well behaved. The child will be able to know what is good for him and what is not. He or she will be able to make his or her own decisions rather than relying on their parents or friends for assistance.

Teenagers with this sort of parenting experience less anxiety and depression.

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3. Parents should be the one to initiate and let their child feel free and secure to open up about their sexual relationship, and also provide them with the correct sex education.

Parents should make them feel comfortable talking about the changes the teenagers may experience as a result of puberty. They should speak openly about issues like menstruation, not just to girls but also to boys. Seeing their parents communicate to them in this manner will make them feel safe and encourage them to open up to them about their own problems.

4. Confidence Building - During the teenage years, a child will always want to walk on a new road to find his/her own identity which may include new friendships and a lot of new experiences that they are not yet familiar with. The role of parents here is to build confidence.

Another issue that may arise due to low confidence is Peer Pressure. Peer pressure occurs when you choose to do something you don't want to do in order to fit in with society or your peers. As a result, many children develop drug addictions, smoking, consume alcohol, or engage in sexual behaviors. In such instances, a child's parents should be the first one they turn to for assistance. A parent should listen to their child without judging them and keep the lines of communication open. They should also propose strategies for them to deal with their peers by establishing or increasing their confidence.

Children go through a lot of changes during their teenage years, and if communication is not maintained in a healthy way, the relationship is bound to have ups and downs, teenagers need a lot of care and support from their parents, as well as a safe space where they can feel secure enough to express themselves.

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Connecting With Nature

 

Every morning when we wake up, usually, we all have a set routine for the day. “Time for office” “time for school/college” and so on. And it’s possible that morning walk we planned for today will be shifted to tomorrow.

And we again lose the chance to connect with nature. But why do we need that connection?

We are aware about the benefits our physical body gets, but what about our mental and emotional health? How does spending time in nature helps us in that regard?

Nature rejuvenates you, energizes you, calms you and heals you. Nature heals us without any side effects, affecting our mood, emotions and thoughts. Our emotions and mental well-being depends upon the release of hormones in our body. And regulating these hormones can be done by spending time in nature.

 One of the main hormone which corresponds to mental health is Cortisol. It is the stress inducing hormone in our body. According to the various researches conducted, we find that spending only 20 minutes in nature can reduce your cortisol level at a great rate. High cortisol levels can also lead to depression. It is also found that people with OCD, bipolar, PTSD, anxiety also has higher level of cortisol.

Solution? Get active! Go out in parks, enjoy the picnics, start exercising outside.

 Another reason for depression can be not getting enough sunlight.

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Yep! You heard it right!  Proper exposure to sun is essential for us. As stated in WebMD, vitamin D deficiency leads to “medical and psychosocial issues”. Our immune system, heart, brain have vitamin D receptors. The body transports the vitamin to the kidneys and liver, which is then converted into active hormone and then   assisting the body in absorbing calcium. Also, staying in natural light regularizes your sleep schedule. (we know how many of us are guilty of not having proper sleep!)

It’s nurturing properties, it’s healing vibrations can prove to be great help to everyone. It’s time to take few minutes out of your busy schedule to connect with nature, let it heal you and let yourself rejoice in the positivity that it provides.

Ayurveda, one of the world's oldest holistic healing systems, says -  though the nature is filled with positive energy throughout the day, it’s the early morning when the environment is nourished with “Prana” and energy. So, let’s go for that morning walk!

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Depression, Chakras And Healing Things we need to know

 

According to WebMd, depression “is a mood disorder that makes you feel constant sadness or lack of interest in life.” From energy healing perspective, depression is a blockage in the chakras. Chakras are the energy centers in our bodies. The chakras associated with depression are – The Heart Chakra, The Third Eye Chakra. The Heart Chakra “Anahata” corresponds to the center of love for oneself and others, compassion, empathy and forgiveness. Mainly it’s the emotional center. The Third Eye chakra “Ajna”, located between the brows, is about the clarity in thoughts, spiritual contemplation and self-reflection.

So what’s the solution?

1. Crystals – Crystals play an important part in healing your chakras. For depression, the crystals suggested are – Rose Quartz (encourages self-love and self-care), Clear Quartz (provides peace and calmness), Citrine (cleanse and grounds negativity and positive vibes), Smoky Quartz (releases stress). Only use crystals which align with your energy.

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2. Energy Healing Therapies provides the way to cleanse, unblock, heal and align your chakras. For a person going through depression, it’s essential to cleanse the chakras. Working with universal energy, a healer works towards the proper alignment of chakras. Bringing a transformation in the person’s life. It’s a spiritual therapy with no side effects.

Some more benefits of healing –

1. Relieves emotional stress

2. Induces deep relaxation

3. Breaks the energy blocks

4. Promotes harmony and balance

5. Improves sleep

6. Reduces Stress

And many more. It provides way to heal your mind, body and emotions. For the people who are taking other treatments, energy healing fastens your healing process and enhances the recovery.

It’s important to remember, for crystals or for any kind of energy healing it’s essential to choose your master carefully. Know who your healer is, ask questions. Experience and education both are important along with the soul quality he or she possess.

Energy healing or crystals are a part of nature, they will work towards our betterment. It is also essential to be receptive to that positivity that the nature bestows upon us. 

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A message for those who support and care for the people with mental illness part 2

Loving a person is tough, but loving a person who suffers with mental disorder needs a strength only few possess.

It requires a sacrifice of not only of your time, but to some extent your own dreams and desires.

Each and every day, your decisions are measured by how the other person will react, people tend to put themselves and their wants at second. And when still that reaction comes despite your efforts, you tell yourself that ‘it’s okay’. Providing that person an acceptance which in this world many people won’t. This is a situation where no one is wrong and still, people suffer.

Here comes the part that can make the whole process easier, when the person suffering works on himself, takes his medication on time, follows the guidelines provided to him by the professionals, attending his therapy sessions on time, keeping in mind that he is not only doing this to get better, but also for the people who have been there for him.

If you live with someone with mental disorder, it is essential that you too have some support and help. So what you can do for YOURSELF?

1.  Practice healing - While learning Reiki, this was one of the basic that I learned, that before providing healing the other person, it is essential to protect ourselves and we, too, are in good health to provide the best care for the other person.

2. Hypnosis - (please understand, here I am NOT talking about those funny entertaining acts that we see on stages!) I am talking about hypnotherapy as a healing tool for yourself. Self-hypnosis can be great way to relax and recharge yourself.

3. Talk to a therapist.

4. Join support groups, talk to people about what YOU are going through, understand that dealing with people can be tiring and stressful.

Make your mental health a priority as well!

“Self-love is understanding and accepting one’s own strengths with grace and being humble. It’s understanding one’s weakness with courage and love.” – Dr. Pooja

In conclusion, I would just like to remind you, we are here not only for the person who is suffering from the mental disorders, but also for the people who stand by them, in thick and thin. Supporting them and just being there for them despite all the difficulties that they face.

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